Mommas, your job is exhausting. You wake up every day and put your children before yourself. Whether that be cooking meals, making sure everybody gets where they need to be, taking care of the pets, or making sure each child feels your love. Morning and night, you care for your kiddos…but where do your wants and needs fit into that equation? When do you stop pushing yourself to the back burner? What happens when you breakdown and have a really bad mom day?
Let me reiterate my first sentence. Your job is exhausting and every human being has a limit. As parents, your limits will likely be met far more often than not. It’s all about how you choose to handle the situation. As a child, I am fully aware of my ability to poke my mom and poke her hard. I am also fully aware of what it is like to be poked back due to my mindless behavior. Something children seem to forget, no matter their age, is the simple fact that our parents are human and trying their best every single day. Sometimes that means having bad days. I remember the age I started to realize that my mom had her own daily struggles, yet still woke up and cared for my sisters and me like she didn’t. She was superwoman in my eyes and that became more apparent the older I got. While talking about life in the last few years, we talked a lot about “mom guilt” and “having bad mom days.” Or at least that’s what she liked to call it. Really, they were just bad days and she was still a kick-a$$ mom.
It’s important for moms to remember you are not alone in your bad days. You are not alone in your anger and frustration. Most importantly, that you aren’t a bad mom for having those days. I think it’s common to feel shame or embarrassment when it comes to losing your cool but as moms it’s important to normalize those feelings; especially for each other. Whether the “bad mom” moments happen in a public place or behind closed doors, it never seems to settle well. I want to know why kids are allowed “bad days” but moms aren’t? Give yourself some grace, mommas. It is okay to have bad days and heck, even put yourself in timeout. Listen to your mind and body because it is telling you what it needs. Take care of you and that will allow you to love your children harder than ever. Forgive yourself for your trip ups and find humor in the sad moments. You’re doing a great job.
Raised by a Good Momma
Danielle Warren, Marketing Intern
Hi, I’m Danielle Warren! After earning my Bachelor’s in Communication Science and Disorders from James Madison University, I took a different route than initially planned. While pursuing a second degree in Nursing, I am proud to work alongside my mom with the Forward Foundation. Single mothers have a very special place in my heart and it is an honor to be a part of something so wonderful. Serving as the marketing intern, I am learning lots of new skills when it comes to getting the word out.